Some Ideas On Overcoming Hurt And Pain

By Shirley Martin


Emotional pain is often caused by the persons that are closest to us. Dealing with this challenge is not easy for most people. When not dealt with, emotional hurt can lead to a disruption of your life and may even result in major depression disorder. Having the skills to confront such a situation will go a long way into helping you find peace with your inner self and move on. In this article we look at some options of overcoming hurt and pain.

Often times, the process of healing requires time. Depending on your level of resilience, you may need a few days, weeks or even years. Be ready to work patiently towards becoming your former self. If you find yourself in a situation that appears to be headed towards emotional heartache, make a point of getting out of it. Let things cool off and avoid acting on impulse as this is likely to aggravate the situation.

The next task is to take part in a moment of reflection. You should think deeply about the events that took place before and during the moment that led to your current feelings. What role did you play and is there a different way you would have acted? Are you really justified to be upset? In some cases, answering these questions may provoke pain and more hurt. This notwithstanding, you need to remain calm.

Once you have reflected and have found some answers to your questions, plan to meet the person that you believe is responsible for your hurt. It may not always be possible to do this since in some situations there is an obvious intention to cause emotional pain. All the same, you should be ready to listen to them and to understand what it is exactly that they meant.

Do not aggravate a situation that is already strained. You need to think carefully before you say anything and try as much as possible not to be aggressive or argumentative. Forcing an apology is not advised as it rarely works. In any case, some may apologize but this is not likely to be genuine. For those that chose to do it out of their own volition, forgiving and forgetting should be the objective.

You may not have the opportunity to meet the person that wronged you and seek reconciliation. All hope is not lost. There are a number of things that you can still do to find peace of mind. Try to focus on the positive things in your life. There are many other aspects of your life that are going well and focusing on the past is only preventing you from enjoying these things.

It is important that you learn to take responsibility of hurtful situations. Placing the responsibility on another person gives them the power to determine the pattern of your feelings. It makes it more difficult to let go. On the other hand, when one is fully in control of the situation they can determine what they feel in the present and in future.

Surround yourself with people who have a positive mindset. Sharing your experience with a close friend will go a long way in helping you overcome the heartache. The friend will help you analyze the situation from different perspectives and may even suggest to you solutions that you can use.




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