How To Get Kids To Listen Effectively

By Carolyn Long


Children have a lot going on, both on an emotional level as well as with what they have to do with their life. It is often difficult for them to listen to their parents and teachers. It is not always as if they are being disobedient. Very often, things become chaotic in their lives. Parents need to know how to get kids to listen without becoming frustrated.

Of course, this can be difficult when you are calling your child for dinner or you are trying to talk to them and they are busy in their own world. A lot of parents naturally become impatient and start to raise their voice. This is not very helpful because it can lead to a lot of conflict in the home. Some children become fearful of the parents.

Of course, there are times when a child is playing mind games. This is when they are going to ignore you. Every child goes through this phase, looking for attention or testing the parent. This is more psychological and it is not going to help when you raise your voice because they won't respond.

If you do raise your voice when they are focusing with something else, they may still not hear what you are saying. It is not helpful for them or for you. It will create a lot of chaos in the home not only for you, but also for the entire family. You may create a rift between you and the child. The child may also become fearful of you, and this is something that you obviously don't want.

The brain is developing at this time and this is something that you have to keep in mind. You can't overwhelm your child by talking to them, using a lot of words or using your words in such a way that they are not going to understand. You need to get down to their level. Use their language. They can only take in so much at this stage of their lives.

Have compassion for your child and treat them as if you would want to be treated at that age. It is not always easy when you are growing up and struggling in this way. You need to think of the right way to come up with the most appropriate words which they would use with their friends. In this way you would be connecting with them on their level, and creating a stronger bond.

Of course, there are also kids who have a tough time listening in general because of something like autism. When they are busy with something that are completely focused, and you may not even be able to distract them. Parents need to learn how to talk to a child like this. It is not easy and you may become impatient at time, so this is something you have to keep under control.

Some children who have attention deficit disorder will also battle to listen. This can also cause impatience on the part of the parent. Kids will be so busy talking, that they don't have the chance to listen to their parent. They are filled with energy that they need to burn off. It is best that a parent learns how to cope with this.




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